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Having a decent level of self-esteem is tied to your work. In America especially, we feel more valued if we are employed or doing something productive with our lives.

Polls show that a higher percentage (16.6%) of unemployed individuals are depressed than employed individuals (5.6%).

Essentially, our self-identity is tied up in what we do for a living.

But what about those who already have jobs or do something productive with their lives?

Even though those who are employed are less likely to be depressed, we still struggle with the ties between our job and our self-esteem.

When you have low self-esteem at work you are less likely to reach for promotions, raises, or better jobs. When a person experiences low self-esteem at work, they unintentionally damage their ability to succeed and advance.

But one of the best ways to boost your self-esteem at work is to strive to show your personal value. This is the opposite of hiding in the wings and waiting for someone to compliment you.

And today I am going to talk about how you can show your coworkers and your boss your self-worth by setting goals and sticking to them.

1. Show Your Personal Value At Work By Remembering That Time Is Money

If you work in an office, you’ll know the temptations.

Your cell phone. Or possible just social media in general.

89% of employees admit to wasting time at work. Most likely, even your boss would fit in this number. The internet has made us all attention deficit in some way (not to downplay the reality of ADD).

But those employees who utilize every moment at work will get noticed.

Set a goal of not checking your phone or social media until you’re on break. You will soon notice that you are getting more work done and this will boost your self-worth.

We stake too much of our self-identity in social media and our digital lives. Ghosting for a few hours on social media will not change how people view you. In fact, this practice might change your life for the better.

2. Be Your Own Return On Investment

As you invest time in your day, you will reap the consequences.

These consequences can either be positive or negative. And your company or boss will notice when you’re reaping the positive kind.

Thinking of your time as a return on investment is a great way to reorient how you think about yourself.

Your personal value at work according to your boss is measured in dollars typically. You don’t have to think this way. But if it helps, start thinking this way.

Think of how much you get paid (or don’t if it’s too depressing), but are you exceeding your “worth?” If you are, this might be motivation to start reaching for promotions.

Sometimes our self-esteem is tied into our inability to see our personal value at work. Some people don’t realize they are giving more than they are being paid. Sometimes bosses don’t realize their employees are giving more than they are being compensated.

And when you turn in exceptional work, you show your value to everyone on the receiving end.

3. Learn To Say “No”

Sometimes go-getters at work actually have low self-esteem. You might actually be busting your chops and then the boss says, “hey, can you take on this ‘side project?'” And you’re a go-getter, so you say “Yes” when you should say “No.”

Knowing our personal value at work also involves gauging how much we take on.

Other people can’t tell sometimes how much they’re placing on you. They will give you more than you can handle if you accept more than you can handle.

It is good to say no at work. It is wise to set boundaries at work too.

If you’re finding you can’t meet your work goals because you have too much on your plate, it’s time to pair down. You’re feeling a sense of low self-esteem because you’re trying to climb an impossible mountain.

You may think other people are able to climb the impossible mountain you’re on. But this is far from true.

Go-getters are the ultimate self-saboteurs. They outperform everyone else and yet feel like everyone else is outperforming them. They take on more work to cover their performance anxiety. And the cycle starts all over again.

This is why it’s important to set boundaries and keep your workload to a manageable level. You will accomplish more and see your self-identity tied to a healthier metric than workload.

4. Be Confident In Your Ideas

If you’re trying to climb the ladder and gain some sort of managerial position, then confidence is key.

If your work conducts team meetings or staff meetings of some sort, it’s time to set a goal. Think of something new to introduce at each meeting. Make sure it’s relevant to the company, of course. But with time you’ll see the attitude of your boss and fellow employees change.

Your personal value at work will go up if people see that you are full of ideas.

Know also that it doesn’t matter if those ideas are not implemented. This is part of creating a positive self-identity within your company. Learning to express your ideas and accept rejection and remaining undaunted.

Nobody is going to trash your idea. And if they do, defend yourself (with humility). The more you stand up for your ideas and speak your mind, the better you feel about your personal value in the company.

4. Say No To Working Vacations

Some people look down on those who learn to strike a work-life balance. But the people who strike a work-life balance are those who know their personal value at work and don’t tie their whole self-identity up in their job.

Your vacation should be your vacation. Sure, there will be business trips. But those should never be called a vacation.

Even if it’s a weekend, demand time to recharge. This is essential to success in the workplace.

Lastly, Get A Life or Strengths Coach

A coach is exactly what it sounds like. It’s a professional who can help you set goals and reach those goals in your life and your work.

If you’re looking to find a healthier self-identity and greater personal value at work, get in contact and see how a coach can change your life for the better.

A lot of people confuse low self-esteem with humility. These aren’t the same thing. Sometimes we need a reminder of our ability to achieve inner strength and higher self-esteem. And humility is a part of that process. It takes a humble person to reach out and grasp for a helping hand. And a life coach is the helping hand. Today I’m going to talk about what a strengths coach can do for you. So, are you humbly looking for a way to improve your life and outlook? Let’s see what it means to achieve inner strength through strengths or life coaching.

What Is A Strengths or Life Coach?

A strengths or life coach is exactly what it sounds like. It’s a professional who coaches you in helping you reaching your goals or changing your life. Coaches help you get out of your own head and gain perspective on your life. Perspective helps you evaluate and take action. If we didn’t have mirrors would we ever change our appearance? Yes. We would rely on other people to tell us what we look like. Your life is basically a life without mirrors. We look at the world through a set of lenses that can distort reality. If we didn’t have other people to help us set the record straight, we might not change our lives, ever. A coach is essentially a mirror. They help you understand areas of your life that need improvement and help you achieve that improvement. We motivate, strategize, and become a personal accountability partner in your life.

But I Don’t Know What To Change

Don’t know what you need to change, but feel you need a change? Perfect! A strengths or life coach can help. Coaches are trained to help you understand your dreams and aspirations. Even if you feel you have no goals in life, we’ll help you find them. Sometimes, we just need someone to connect the dots for us. A whopping 92% of people who set a New Year’s resolution never achieves it. And while this number may not apply to all goals across the board, people do need to break this cycle of goal setting and goal failing. A coach will always help set realistic and achievable goals for your life. That’s one of the reasons people don’t accomplish their goals in life. Their goals are unrealistic or too challenging. A coach will help you breakdown the ultimate goal into bite size pieces. A coach will also encourage you to frequently revisit your goals so you can consider life changes that have occurred. A coach can show you how to set incremental goals that are achievable. This allows you to reach your ultimate goal without being too overwhelmed. And a coach understands that life changes. Priorities will change, circumstances will change. They can take your goals and adapt them to each instance in your life. And sometimes what you really needed was assurance that you can. A lot of people are afraid of what success might look like in their lives. And yes, fear of success is a real thing. And it holds a lot of us back. Achieving your goals will change your life. And sometimes change is hard. And that’s where inner strength comes in.

What Is Inner Strength?

Resilience in the face of fear and stress. This is a great definition of inner strength. It’s the ability to handle what life tosses our way. And it’s an essential characteristic of success. A sense of fear is natural. It’s our inbuilt response. It notifies us of danger in the world and helps us avoid it. But our sense of fear can be wrong. Fight or flight kicks in at the most inopportune times. It’s why public speaking is the most common fear in America. No one has it out for you when you get up to speak in front of a classroom. But your brain tells you this is true and sends you into a state of flop-sweats. As public speakers, we build inner strength by developing appropriate coping methods for this response. We set routines before going up on stage. Some people do exercises to decrease nervous energy. Some use specific repeated sayings. Others might meditate.

Inner Strength Involves Self-Knowledge

Like I mentioned previously, a coach is like a mirror. We help you understand yourself. This is a big part of inner strength. You must be secure in who you are. The more secure you are in your own skin, the less the outside world will affect you. This requires really understanding your strengths and abilities. This requires self-awareness.

Your Definition Matters

What inner strength looks like depends on the individual. If you struggle with aggression and anger, it might look like control. It might look like taking a step back each time you feel anger and evaluating why you feel anger. Anger is a secondary emotion. The primary emotion is alway underlying this. A coach can help you set routines and goals for when you get angry. These routines and goals will give you the time to choose your actions and control your behavior.

Inner Strength Keys Into Your Natural Strengths

And a coach will help you key into these strengths. We are born with specific capabilities. And the skills we learn along the way enhance these abilities. A coach can help you identify these abilities and help you set goals accordingly. Sometimes we set goals on our own and don’t realize they are outside our current abilities. Of course, we should always strive to increase our ability, but using what we already have is essential in this process. If you focus on the negative, you will never achieve. Instead, a coach will help you focus on the positive aspects of your abilities.

Mental And Physical Strength

I’m not talking bodybuilding here (unless your goal is to build muscle). I’m talking about the connection between the mental and physical. A coach will show you how your physical habits determine your mental strength. If you aren’t getting enough sleep, your mental strength will wane. If a coach identifies this as a weakness in your life, they might help you set goals to get more rest.

A Coach Will Change Your Life

If you’re looking to make your life better and achieve success, consider a coach. Choosing to reach out for help in your life is humble and praise-worthy. If you’re looking for a coach to help you become the best version of you, get in contact and change the course of your life today.